hypnotherapy for anger

Isn’t it awful how out of control we can feel when we get angry? Hypnotherapy can help you understanding how anger works in your deeper mind and body and ultimately taking back control.

Anger

Do you find yourself acting irrationally in a heated moment and seemingly unable to control it?

Do you regret things you say and do in a moment of anger but can’t seem to stop yourself?

Are you determined to keep your anger in check but find it impossible once it flares up?

This is because anger is generated in your subconscious mind and body.

The Stress Response

The fight/flight/freeze response is a biological radar system that’s been programmed into humans since prehistoric days. Our cave-dwelling ancestors were often saved by the dramatic changes that took place in their bodies when confronted with danger. However, these days, there’s very little chance a tiger is going to jump out of the bushes and attack us on our way home from the shops.

Our stress response is activated in response to situations – real, imagined or predicted – that may threaten our sense of safety, security or comfort. These days, this is typically in response to modern day non-life-threatening dangers or associations that our brain has made based on past experiences.

Unfortunately, this mechanism still functions the same way it always has – in black-and-white, life-or-death – which is why we find ourselves fighting, fleeing or freezing in different forms throughout our everyday lives. These automatic ‘safety behaviours’ often take the form of us thinking, feeling and doing things that are irrational, inappropriate for the situation or otherwise not what we really want for ourselves.

What is anger?

Anger is the fight part of our fight/flight/freeze response. It’s a feeling of annoyance, displeasure, or hostility toward a person or thing we perceive as having wronged us in one way or another. Our anger-driven response and its associated emotions have us take action to defend ourselves against something we find threatening.

Anger is a normal emotion that can mobilise us to take action such as fighting against injustice or enforcing boundaries. Anger becomes a problem when it’s persistent, displayed excessively or gets in the way of your daily functioning or relationships. It can sometimes be hard to keep anger in check and we end up acting in ways that are irrational or harmful and that we later regret.

What anger looks and feels like

The experience and expressions of anger is individual and ranges from mild irritation to full-blown rage. It can be accompanied by emotions like stress, frustration, and irritation.

When our mind-body system is prompted to fight, our sympathetic nervous system initiates a range of physiological changes to prepare the body for fight and has us act in short-term self-preservation. This can look like:

Physiological changes:

  • Increased energy levels
  • Raised blood pressure
  • Spike in hormones like adrenaline and noradrenaline
  • Increase in body temperature
  • Increased muscle tension
  • Physically trembling
  • Rapid heartbeats
  • Sweating excessively

Behavioural expressions:

  • Defensiveness or denial
  • Raised voice, yelling or screaming
  • Physical aggression or violence
  • Passive-aggressive behaviours
  • Swearing
  • Clenched fists
  • Frowning or scowling
  • A clenched jaw
  • Pacing excessively

What’s the problem?

Although it may seem like it sometimes, no one truly likes to be angry. The experience is unpleasant, and our words and behaviours usually have detrimental consequences that we have to work to correct. On top of this, long-term exposure to anger and its physiological effects can also lead to mental and biological health problems like:

  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • High blood pressure
  • Insomnia
  • Substance abuse
  • Gastric ulcers
  • Bowel disease
  • Diabetes

What causes anger?

Anger can be normal and appropriate, like reacting to physical pain or unjust circumstances. When our experience or expression of anger is frequent, debilitating or inappropriate for the given situation, it’s likely that something held in your subconscious is triggering your fight/flight/freeze response system, such as:

  • Memories of past experiences (conscious or subconscious)
  • Feelings of fear derived from a perceived or predicted attack
  • Sometimes there’s an emotion under our anger that we would rather not face or deal with, like emotional pain, fear, loneliness or loss.

Hypnotherapy for anger

Hypnotherapy is a highly effective treatment for anger because it addresses the mind-body system that’s generating the anger: your subconscious mind and nervous system. Treatment with Mel focuses on increasing awareness around your stress response system and the triggers for your anger, improving coping strategies to calm down quickly, return the body to its healthy baseline and avoid making the situation worse, and exploring and updating your mind’s threat perception system to reduce ‘fight’ response activations in the first place.

We’re treating more than just the symptoms. We’re taking into account the memories and patterns held in your subconscious and the influence they continue to have on your current experiences.

Part 1: Improve coping and recovery

Hypnotherapy allows you to interrupt your unwanted automatic thoughts, feelings and behaviours and replace them with more helpful responses of your choice directly with the subconscious mind that drives this process. You get to implement and rehearse relaxation and thought/feeling-replacing techniques in the safe and controlled environment of hypnotherapy. Repetition of these strategies in hypnosis using a recording you will receive aids in building those new neural pathways and making your new responses more automatic in your daily life.

Part 2: Update your subconscious perceptions

The second part of treating anxiety with Mel is to look into why your system is perceiving threats that may not really be there. Using hypnotherapy, you can explore the origin of your automatic reactions and make changes at their deepest level. This may involve changing unhelpful patterns and reframing the subconscious stories you hold about yourself and memories of past experiences. This reduces the frequency and intensity of inaccurate threat detections, and therefore less fight/flight activation. You get to teach your system that you are safe.

*Note that this process may not be linear and may not involve all these aspects. Treatment is very personalised and depends greatly on the issue you’re experiencing and what you feel you need.

Free 15 minute phone consultation

This lets me get an idea of what you’re seeking support for and gives you the chance to make sure I am the right person for you. It is my highest priority to offer you a safe, confidential and compassionate space.

Video or in-person sessions are available. My techniques and methods work just as powerfully online as they do in-person.

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Asked Questions

Many people don’t know a great deal about hypnotherapy and, as a result, can feel a bit unsure. Below you’ll find answers to some questions that people often ask. If you have any others, please feel free to get in touch with me and I can explain anything else you’d like to know.

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What is hypnosis?

Hypnosis is a state of relaxation, during which there is an altered state of conscious awareness (a high degree of focussed attention) and heightened suggestibility. During hypnosis the mind relaxes, lowers its guard by minimising interference from the critical, judgmental conscious mind and the hypnotherapist is able to communicate directly with the subconscious mind. 

The subconscious is the storehouse of a person’s total experiences; where the memory of everything that ever happened to a person is stored. During hypnosis long forgotten incidents, which are still affecting a person without them knowing, can be brought back into consciousness allowing the presenting symptoms to subside or disappear.

In the case of medical or mental issues, treating ailments with medications aims to provide relief from the symptoms. What sets hypnotherapy apart is that it can locate the exact cause of the presenting symptoms instead of simply treating the symptoms themselves.

How does hypnotherapy work?

Hypnotherapy works by lowering our brain wave state in order to allow our subconscious mind to explore how past experiences are still affecting us and to receive suggestions for change. It is a very natural state of mind. We actually go into an alpha brain wave state when we are doing a repetitive action that we really don’t need to concentrate on. For example, if you have ever been driving and find you have reached your destination without remembering how you got there, or been so engrossed in a book that you forgot you were reading, you have been in this state of mind. Theta is a deeper state, and is the state we are in right before drifting off to sleep at night. During these times, our mind is much more responsive to suggestion.

Why are hypnotic suggestions so effective?

The reason for hypnotic suggestions being so much more successful than suggestions made in the waking state is that the subconscious mind has no critical faculty and will accept benevolent suggestions made by the hypnotherapist and control the body accordingly. For example, if you were told in everyday waking life that you’ll find it easy to stick to your diet, your conscious, critical mind will probably have you thinking ‘no I won’t, I’ll get hungry!’ and you’ll reject the suggestion. However, when the subconscious mind is told the same suggestion, most clients are truly amazed at the ease with which they are subsequently able to diet.

Can anyone be hypnotised?

Yes, everybody is capable of falling into a hypnotic trance state (except those who are mentally disabled or under the influence of drugs). In fact we all pass through a state very similar to, if not the same as trance when we fall asleep or wake up (a twilight state). However, hypnosis requires participation, so the ease at which a person falls into hypnosis and the depth they reach depends largely on their level of consent and participation.

Am I ever out of control in hypnosis?

No. You are never out of control during a hypnotherapy session. The only suggestions you will receive will be those we have discussed and agreed to prior to hypnosis. You cannot be made to do anything against your will or personal nature and, in fact, you would be shocked out of the hypnotic state immediately if any such action was suggested to you. The hypnotised person is fully aware of everything happening and is able to leave the hypnotic state at any time should they so wish. You may drift into a deeper state during the session work, and that is fine. You will be very relaxed and comfortable at all times.

Generally you will be aware throughout the hypnotic session. Most people come out of a session remembering everything that happened, but feeling very relaxed and rested.

Is hypnosis safe?

Yes. There is no cause whatsoever for concern; hypnosis is a proven therapeutic aid. Modern therapeutic hypnosis is one of the most effective, quickest and safest forms of treatment for the majority of psychological disturbances and emotional problems. Hypnotic treatment is completely safe, and you will find it a very relaxing and pleasant experience. You do not lose consciousness or in any way lose control. The extreme relaxation can lead some people to fall asleep, which is just fine as your mind will keep listening to my voice.

How many sessions would I need?

Hypnotherapy and psychotherapy sessions are very individualised. Many mild challenges that can be addressed through suggestion therapy can be addressed effectively in as few as three sessions. More deep-rooted issues require analytical therapy and analysis, which typically extends beyond three sessions. Treatment will not surpass twelve sessions for any single issue or topic.

During the first or second session, you will be presented with a treatment plan, which will offer a rough guide to the treatment I’m suggesting. The number of sessions required will depend on the progress made throughout treatment and may be adjusted along the way.

Sometimes the number of visits required can be reduced through the use of hypnotic recordings. With many problems and topics, I will provide a recording of the session to be listened to outside of our appointments, to supplement the consultations.

Is hypno-psychotherapy a quick fix?

Hypnosis does not provide miracle cures, although it is a quick and efficient method of dealing with many problems. Some problems can be helped in only a couple of sessions, but multiple sessions are often required to address deep-seated issues and really cement in the changes. 

As with most things in life, you get out what you put in. Although the hypnotic session works by bringing you to a very relaxed state, treatment does require your involvement and participation in both the conscious discussions and the trance sessions. You will be given recordings to listen to at home and invited to continue reflecting on the topic and the work we do together outside of the sessions. 

Do you offer remote sessions?

Yes, remote sessions are available for anyone who would prefer to do their hypnotherapy sessions in the privacy of their own home. Remote sessions are safe, effective and confidential. You must have a computer with reliable internet connection, headphones, a microphone, and access to a quiet, private room with comfortable chair and/or bed during the session. A recliner is usually ideal, but not necessary.