hypnotherapy for stress

Stress is pervasive in our society. Although it may feel unrelenting, hypnotherapy can help you to take control of your mind and body’s stress response system and how it’s influence on your life.

Stress

Stress is often associated with being too busy or being unable to meet all the demands of life. Stress is actually more biological and more influential than that. It’s a state of mental or emotional strain or tension, the body’s reaction to a challenging situation. This stress response system carries us through our everyday lives and determines whether we lean into or away from each situation we encounter and determines our automatic reactions.

The Stress Response

The fight/flight/freeze response is a biological radar system that’s been programmed into humans since prehistoric days. Our cave-dwelling ancestors were often saved by the dramatic changes that took place in their bodies when confronted with danger. However, these days, there’s very little chance a tiger is going to jump out of the bushes and attack us on our way home from the shops.

Our stress response is activated in response to situations – real, imagined or predicted – that may threaten our sense of safety, security or comfort. These days, this is typically in response to modern day non-life-threatening dangers or associations that our brain has made based on past experiences.

Unfortunately, this mechanism still functions the same way it always has – in black-and-white, life-or-death – which is why we find ourselves fighting, fleeing or freezing in different forms throughout our everyday lives. These automatic ‘safety behaviours’ often take the form of us thinking, feeling and doing things that are irrational, inappropriate for the situation or otherwise not what we really want for ourselves.

What stress looks and feels like

When our stress response system is activated, our nervous system prepares the body for fight/flight/freeze. This can end up looking like any combination of the following common experiences:

You might feel:
  • Irritable, angry, impatient or wound up
  • Over-burdened or overwhelmed
  • Anxious, nervous, worried or afraid
  • Depressed
  • Like your thoughts are racing and you can’t switch off
  • Loss of enjoyment or interest in life
  • Like you’ve lost your sense of humour
  • A sense of dread
  • Neglected or lonely
  • Existing mental health problems getting worse
  • Suicidal
Physiological experience of stress:
  • Difficulty breathing
  • Sweating
  • Panic attacks
  • Blurred eyesight or sore eyes
  • Sleep problems, insomnia
  • Fatigue
  • Muscle aches and headaches
  • Chest pains and high blood pressure
  • Indigestion or heartburn
  • Constipation or diarrhoea
  • Feeling sick, dizzy or fainting
  • Sudden weight gain or weight loss
  • Developing rashes or itchy skin
  • Cold sore outbreaks
  • Changes to your period or menstrual cycle
  • Existing physical health problems getting worse
Stress might make you:
  • Find it hard to make decisions
  • Unable to concentrate
  • Procrastinate
  • Unable to remember things, or make your memory feel slower than usual
  • Constantly worry or have feelings of dread
  • Snap at people
  • Bite your nails
  • Pick at or itch your skin
  • Grind your teeth or clench your jaw
  • Experience sexual problems, such as losing interest in sex or being unable to enjoy sex
  • Eat too much or too little
  • Smoke, use recreational drugs or drink alcohol more than you usually would
  • Restless, like you can’t sit still
  • Cry or feel tearful
  • Spend or shop too much
  • Not exercise as much as you usually would, or exercise too much
  • Withdraw from people around you

What causes stress?

Anything that our mind-body system considers to be threatening triggers the fight/flight/freeze response. In our modern society, these often look like:

  • Feeling under a lot of pressure
  • Facing big changes in your life
  • Feeling worried about something
  • Not having much or any control over a situation or the outcome
  • Having responsibilities that you find overwhelming
  • Going through a period of uncertainty

Chronic stress is a result of ongoing experiences of these feelings. It can be triggered by a range of life’s experiences, including (but certainly not limited to):

  • Personal: Illness or injury, parenthood, experiencing abuse, organising a complicated event, everyday tasks
  • Interpersonal: Going through a break-up or divorce, conflicts in relationships or at work
  • Work and study: Losing your job/long-term unemployment, exams and deadlines, starting a new job
  • Housing problems: Poor living conditions, lack of security or homelessness, moving house
  • Money: Worries about money, living in poverty, managing debt
  • Social and global factors: Having poor access to services such as medical care or transport, experiencing stigma or discrimination, experiencing national disasters or a pandemic

Experiencing these things doesn’t automatically mean you’re going to feel stressed. The ability to cope with stress in healthy ways is individual and is influenced by a number of factors.

It’s not all bad

Contrary to popular belief, not all stress is bad. The stress or pressure of an approaching deadline to complete a task can be helpful: you’re motivated to work faster and have heightened focus to get the job done. The stress of watching a sporting game or a suspenseful movie can even be enjoyable. Stress becomes a problem when our fight/flight/freeze response is activated too frequently or for too long. Our minds, bodies and lives become disrupted when everything starts to stress us out, from minor everyday events to major events, or when we remain in a state of stress without adequate recovery.

Implications of long-term stress

Our fight/flight/freeze mechanism was designed to activate in response to a stressor and be followed by a period of adequate recovery where our nervous system returns to equilibrium, to help us manage the challenges of everyday life. However, when our sympathetic nervous system is activated too frequently or for too long without proper recovery, our autonomic nervous system becomes dysregulated.

Unfortunately, our modern society harbours many stressors that don’t have a defined end, meaning we never get to adequately recover. It also doesn’t advocate for or allow for adequate periods of rest and recovery. The resulting dysregulation manifests as a range of mental, emotional, spiritual, behavioural and even physiological issues such as:

Mental, emotional and spiritual implications:

Physiological implications:

The American Medical Association has reported that over 75% of all modern medical illnesses have stress as a primary causative factor. Some medical outcomes include:

 

  • Elevated or irregular heart rate
  • High blood pressure
  • Stomach pain or nausea
  • Digestive issues
  • Gut issues (constipation, irritable bowel syndrome (IBS))
  • Inflammation
  • Auto-immune disorders
  • Chronic pain
  • Heart disease
  • Cancer
  • Brain inflammation

Hypnotherapy for stress management

Our experience of stressful situations has everything to do with how our mind-body system, consciously and unconsciously, perceives and reacts to our current situation. As well as working to reduce the number of stressors in your lifestyle so you feel less overwhelmed and better able to manage life’s demands, hypnotherapy with Mel focuses on improving coping strategies to feel better quickly, return the body to its healthy baseline and avoid making the situation worse, and exploring and updating your mind’s threat perception system to reduce inaccurate and inappropriate stress activations.

Part 1: Improve coping and recovery

Hypnotherapy allows you to interrupt your unwanted automatic reactions and replace them with more helpful responses of your choice directly with the subconscious mind that drives this process. You get to implement and rehearse relaxation and thought-replacing techniques in the safe and controlled environment of hypnotherapy. Repetition of these strategies in hypnosis using a recording you will receive aids in building those new neural pathways and making your new responses more automatic in your daily life.

Part 2: Update your subconscious perceptions

The second part of treatment is to look into why your system is perceiving threats that may not really be there. Using hypnotherapy, you can explore the origin of your unhelpful patterns and reframe the story in your subconscious where they were created and continue to be held. This reduces the frequency and intensity of inaccurate threat detections, and therefore less fight/flight/freeze activation. You get to teach your system that you are safe.

*Note that this process may not be linear and may not involve all these aspects. Treatment is very personalised and depends greatly on the issue you’re experiencing and what you feel you need.

Free 15 minute phone consultation

This lets me get an idea of what you’re seeking support for and gives you the chance to make sure I am the right person for you. It is my highest priority to offer you a safe, confidential and compassionate space.

Video or in-person sessions are available. My techniques and methods work just as powerfully online as they do in-person.

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Asked Questions

Many people don’t know a great deal about hypnotherapy and, as a result, can feel a bit unsure. Below you’ll find answers to some questions that people often ask. If you have any others, please feel free to get in touch with me and I can explain anything else you’d like to know.

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What is hypnosis?

Hypnosis is a state of relaxation, during which there is an altered state of conscious awareness (a high degree of focussed attention) and heightened suggestibility. During hypnosis the mind relaxes, lowers its guard by minimising interference from the critical, judgmental conscious mind and the hypnotherapist is able to communicate directly with the subconscious mind. 

The subconscious is the storehouse of a person’s total experiences; where the memory of everything that ever happened to a person is stored. During hypnosis long forgotten incidents, which are still affecting a person without them knowing, can be brought back into consciousness allowing the presenting symptoms to subside or disappear.

In the case of medical or mental issues, treating ailments with medications aims to provide relief from the symptoms. What sets hypnotherapy apart is that it can locate the exact cause of the presenting symptoms instead of simply treating the symptoms themselves.

How does hypnotherapy work?

Hypnotherapy works by lowering our brain wave state in order to allow our subconscious mind to explore how past experiences are still affecting us and to receive suggestions for change. It is a very natural state of mind. We actually go into an alpha brain wave state when we are doing a repetitive action that we really don’t need to concentrate on. For example, if you have ever been driving and find you have reached your destination without remembering how you got there, or been so engrossed in a book that you forgot you were reading, you have been in this state of mind. Theta is a deeper state, and is the state we are in right before drifting off to sleep at night. During these times, our mind is much more responsive to suggestion.

Why are hypnotic suggestions so effective?

The reason for hypnotic suggestions being so much more successful than suggestions made in the waking state is that the subconscious mind has no critical faculty and will accept benevolent suggestions made by the hypnotherapist and control the body accordingly. For example, if you were told in everyday waking life that you’ll find it easy to stick to your diet, your conscious, critical mind will probably have you thinking ‘no I won’t, I’ll get hungry!’ and you’ll reject the suggestion. However, when the subconscious mind is told the same suggestion, most clients are truly amazed at the ease with which they are subsequently able to diet.

Can anyone be hypnotised?

Yes, everybody is capable of falling into a hypnotic trance state (except those who are mentally disabled or under the influence of drugs). In fact we all pass through a state very similar to, if not the same as trance when we fall asleep or wake up (a twilight state). However, hypnosis requires participation, so the ease at which a person falls into hypnosis and the depth they reach depends largely on their level of consent and participation.

Am I ever out of control in hypnosis?

No. You are never out of control during a hypnotherapy session. The only suggestions you will receive will be those we have discussed and agreed to prior to hypnosis. You cannot be made to do anything against your will or personal nature and, in fact, you would be shocked out of the hypnotic state immediately if any such action was suggested to you. The hypnotised person is fully aware of everything happening and is able to leave the hypnotic state at any time should they so wish. You may drift into a deeper state during the session work, and that is fine. You will be very relaxed and comfortable at all times.

Generally you will be aware throughout the hypnotic session. Most people come out of a session remembering everything that happened, but feeling very relaxed and rested.

Is hypnosis safe?

Yes. There is no cause whatsoever for concern; hypnosis is a proven therapeutic aid. Modern therapeutic hypnosis is one of the most effective, quickest and safest forms of treatment for the majority of psychological disturbances and emotional problems. Hypnotic treatment is completely safe, and you will find it a very relaxing and pleasant experience. You do not lose consciousness or in any way lose control. The extreme relaxation can lead some people to fall asleep, which is just fine as your mind will keep listening to my voice.

How many sessions would I need?

Hypnotherapy and psychotherapy sessions are very individualised. Many mild challenges that can be addressed through suggestion therapy can be addressed effectively in as few as three sessions. More deep-rooted issues require analytical therapy and analysis, which typically extends beyond three sessions. Treatment will not surpass twelve sessions for any single issue or topic.

During the first or second session, you will be presented with a treatment plan, which will offer a rough guide to the treatment I’m suggesting. The number of sessions required will depend on the progress made throughout treatment and may be adjusted along the way.

Sometimes the number of visits required can be reduced through the use of hypnotic recordings. With many problems and topics, I will provide a recording of the session to be listened to outside of our appointments, to supplement the consultations.

Is hypno-psychotherapy a quick fix?

Hypnosis does not provide miracle cures, although it is a quick and efficient method of dealing with many problems. Some problems can be helped in only a couple of sessions, but multiple sessions are often required to address deep-seated issues and really cement in the changes. 

As with most things in life, you get out what you put in. Although the hypnotic session works by bringing you to a very relaxed state, treatment does require your involvement and participation in both the conscious discussions and the trance sessions. You will be given recordings to listen to at home and invited to continue reflecting on the topic and the work we do together outside of the sessions. 

Do you offer remote sessions?

Yes, remote sessions are available for anyone who would prefer to do their hypnotherapy sessions in the privacy of their own home. Remote sessions are safe, effective and confidential. You must have a computer with reliable internet connection, headphones, a microphone, and access to a quiet, private room with comfortable chair and/or bed during the session. A recliner is usually ideal, but not necessary.